the UN-birthday gift...is it wrong?
>> Sunday, January 25, 2009
kelley and bethany are a year and a half apart. and early on a tradition was started, i believe, by papa. (grandpa=papa, grandma=mammie for future reference). when you have two babies or toddlers, it's hard for them to understand that only one of them gets gifts. and of course they are going to be all up in the other's business trying to unwrap things. this is where the UN-birthday gift comes in.
it's never a big deal. the girls never seem to mind. and in all fairness until cancer intruded into our lives they didn't get a lot of gifts "just because". (i admit that since cancer i do get them gifts "just because", cause you never know when the last "just because" is going to happen.) now daddy has never agreed with this practice. but i've never accused him of being normal, have i?
and really how do you fairly quit the tradition? someone's going to get the last UN-birthday gift, leaving the other with the short end of the deal.
this birthday season poor kelley at the wise old age of 9 1/2, said she understands that we may think she's too old for it. WHAT?! never! (in my mind). as if that's not the worst, the creator of this tradition also hesitated. thank goodness that mammie and i still had our good sense. and thus kelley received her UN-birthday gifts...nothing big a DS game (it was on sale!) and a miniature sock monkey to match her favorite bigger sock monkey. that's it. kelley was happy and bethany was STILL the belle of the ball.
so what do you think? is the UN-birthday tradition NOT a good one? you can comment and i will surely consider your thoughts. (tho i don't think i will quit the tradition any time soon. =))
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We do the un-birthday gifts too for the girls.
Now that the boys are (almost) 12 & 13 we don't do it for them anymore. BUT the boys get stuff ALL the time, so it's not like they're really missing out on anything.
We do it too!!! I think it is a fine tradition.
We used to do that with the grandkids, but we didn't this weekend with the oldest grandchild's birthday and the others didn't seem to notice. It wasn't anything we planned to stop we just didn't think about it for some reason. The other grandkids didn't notice either so I guess it's time that we can stop doing that.
The difference might be that our grandkids are 5, 4 and soon to be 3, so they haven't had enough time to turn it into a tradition. - Sylv
I really think that is a cute idea! Maybe when they even get older, they'll get the other one a un-bday gift too. I think it's sweet!
we don't do the Un-birthday gifts but we do have a Mommy and me day or Daddy and me day so that the girls can spend some together time alone with us one on one.
Usually they'll get spoiled with a movie they've wanted to see, a lunch at their choice of restaurant and a trip to Target to pick out something just for them.
I try and lean towards accessories like Jewelery, hair pretties and nail polish and such. They always love the M&M or D&M days.
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